Step-Families
...e would argue that just because there are two parents, it does not mean that the stepparent would be a good one. This is true, but I feel that there is a better chance of finding someone that is a good person and that is willing to help raise that child than trying to do it alone. A stepparent is a parent by choice not by nature. A stepparent makes the choice to take on someone else’s responsibility. Some people may say that it may be a choice for the incoming parent, but not for the child. The child may not like the new parent figure that is forced upon them and it is not a choice for them. I can understand this concern, but children do not always know what is best for them and therefore can not decide properly if the new parent is a good idea or not. I wanted nothing to do with my step-mom when I was at a certain age. This was because at the time I felt like if I let my step-mom take care of me that I would be betraying my biological mother. These were childish views I had and I think it can prove how kids may not fully understand life and all of the complications that come along the way. I now appreciate that my stepmother willingly chose to take me as her own even though she knew that it would not be easy for anyone. She knew that by marring my father she would automatically become a step-mom. She chose this knowing that at times things would get difficult and confusing and I now value her courage even if I did not always like the way things were. They were doing it for my own good. By having a stepparent involved in raising children I think that you get a chance to make the best out of a bad situation. Things happen in life that are hard to adjust to and by having someone show love and care to a child that might feel abandoned, they get to explain to the child involved that it was not them that was the problem. It allows them to be open to change and lets someone else other than their real parents help them improve from a hard situation. When this happens people could argue that by putting the child in this position they could risk hurting the relationships that they have with the parent that is not present. This could be true, but only if the real parents allowed or encouraged this. The adults involved would definitely have to remind the child that no matter what, they will always be blood, but that it will be better for them to accept that their parents are not together anymore and that i...