Psych - "Boys"
...sses vulnerable feelings, avoid teasing or taunting him. He will only hurt more inside and he will not talk about his feelings anymore. His emotions will build up inside and he will ache. Let boys know that they don’t have to be sturdy oaks. Boys don’t have to keep everything inside them. They are allowed to express their feeling even if it’s not to their parents. They can find the right person who they can trust and that will support them. At least once a day, give your boy your undivided attention. When you give a boy undivided attention, they will feel better about themselves. They will feel better when they know someone is there to listen to them. These actions will improve the lives of real boys. Pollack describes three myths in chapter three. Myth one: Boys Will Be Boys: Nature And Testosterone Win Out Over Nurture. I have known other boys that nature and testosterone win out over nurture. They were always aggression and violent. It not because they wanted to be, it’s just how they were brought up. They never had anyone to nurture them or be there for them. This myth contributes to the gender straitjacket because they had to figure out how to get out themselves. They had nobody to help them. They weren’t told what was right for wrong. Myth two: Boys Should Be Boys. “Boys should be boys,” means that they must fulfill the stereotype of the dominant and “macho” male. Boys should be tough and demand respect from others. My friends use to act tough and bad. They thought had to be the badest kids in town. They weren’t allowed to be nice or respectful. This myth contributes to the gender straitjacket because is was like they were tied up and wasn’t allowed to do anything else but to be tough. Myth Three: Boys Are Toxic – The Anti-Boy: This m...