Premartial Sex
...anti-marriage". They were deliberately seeking an alternative to traditional marriage, an institution they viewed as "repressive". Today, however, many cohabiting couples have a different outlook. Rather than "anti-marriage," I feel it is more accurate to say that many of these couples are "anti-divorce". In 1969, two-thirds of young adults believed that premarital sex was wrong and 21% said it was acceptable. One year later, in 1970, 47% of young adults stilled believed for premarital sex to be immoral. Fifteen years later 52% of young adults said that premarital sex was acceptable. Today 60% of young adults believe that sex before marriage is acceptable and only 38% believe it to be wrong. (www.personal .psu.edu/facultyln/x/nxd10/transition/group24/premar.html) Experts believe that cohabitation has a big part on the outcome of a marriage. Also, couples who have sex before marriage tend to have lessened sexual habits and use sex for conceiving children. “Cohabitation is a common and popular form of romantic partnership for young adults today. Slightly more than 44 percent of single men, 20-29, agree with the statement that they would only marry someone if she agreed to live together first. Close to a third of the men in this study say that they have lived with someone in the past or are currently cohabiting with a girlfriend. There are several reasons why men say that they choose to live with girlfriends. One is to test compatibility for marriage. They believe that living together is a good way to get to know a woman intimately, since "it’s the little things" that can wreck a marriage. Another reason has to do with the convenience of having a regular sex partner. Living with a woman reduces the risks of sex with a stranger. Men believe that they can dispense with condoms if they are in a monogamous living together relationship. Moreover, they can avoid the time-consuming effort of searching for a sex partner when they have one living at home. Also, there are economies of scale associated with shared living. One man commented on how helpful it was to have a girlfriend who could look after the house, pay the bills and take care of the dogs when his work took him away from home for extended periods of time. Several others noted that they were better able to save for the purchase of a house if they lived together. For some, this economy was associated with shared plans for future marriage, or at least, future joint home ownership. For others, buying a house was part of the try-out for marital compatibility. "If the house works out, then maybe we’ll talk marriage," one man said. Finally, these men see living together as a way of avoiding an unhappy marriage and eventual divorce. This view is widely shared among people their age. Sixty-two percent of young adults agree that living with someone before marriage is a good way to avoid eventual divorce, according to last year’s Gallup survey for the National Marriage Project. "Everyone I know who’s gotten married quickly – and failed to live together [first] – has gotten divorced," one man said. Another commented: "It should be a law; you should move in together and have a one year trial period. Then you have to wait another year before you have kids."” (http://marriage.rutgers.edu/Publications/SOOU/TEXTSOOU2002.htm) Grandma always told me why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. I think everyone has heard that statement at least once in their life. As the research more and more, I understand that statement a lot more. In this day and age men are having more of a hard time to commit. These are the top ten reasons why men will not commit: 1. They can get sex without marriage more easily than in times past 2. They can enjoy the benefits of having a wife by cohabiting rather than marrying 3. They want to avoid divorce and its financial risks 4. They want to wait until they are older to have children 5. They fear that marriage will require too many changes and compromises 6. They are waiting for the perfect soul mate and she hasn’t yet appeared 7. They face few social pressures to marry 8. They are reluctant to marry a woman who already has children 9. They want to own a house before they get a wife 10. They want to enjoy single life as long as they can (http://marriage.rutgers.edu/Publications/SOOU/TEXTSOOU2002.htm) This is just a generalization not all men are like this. You can even put these ten statements and use them with woman. I believe that everyone needs to look into themselves and figure out their beliefs. Everyone has a different belief when it comes to premarital sex. It is strongly based on someone’s religious belief. Roman Catholics believe that is a sin to have sex before marriage. They believe in abstinence. Abstinence is defined as not engaging in sexual intercourse. (DeLamter, 607) Roman Catholics believe that sex is a beautiful thing and it should be shared with one person who you are going to share the rest of your life with. They also believe that it is wrong to use any contraception during sex. Sex is a natural special thing and it should be looked at as a bond between two people. “The Jewish belief in pre-marital sex is; according to the Torah, there is no such thing as premarital sex, for if a man has sex with an unmarried woman--then they are effectively married! However, the Talmud and later rabbinic tradition indeed held that it was immoral but not illegal, for a couple to have premarital sex.” (http://jewish.com/askarabbi/askarabbi/askr416.htm) Mormons believe ...