Miscommunication between men & women
...d withdrew herself from the nomination because she thought that the male was disrespecting her and placing her in a bad light and did not want to confront him. In reality, he was actually challenging her for that position as if she was another male. The male worker was actually respecting her as a peer; he had so much respect for her credentials that he treated as an equal and not a female. Deborah Tannen claims that most women feel that they are getting a bad reputation. However in reality, men are more inclined to jockey for position and challenge those who get in the way. Therefore, by challenging a woman’s authority as he would a man’s, this is more a sign of respect and fair treatment. Another common breakdown is how both men and women can say, act and do things and blow it out of proportion. Both classifications have complained in the past of how neither is listening fully to what is being said. In most cases, this is due the fact men have a different way of acknowledging they were paying attention. Drawing from a prior experience, I was involved in such a situation where this applied. While I was married, my wife had a few of her girlfriends over for a visit one evening. After I came home from work, I proceeded to engage in a conversation with a few of them. When people are talking to me, I tend to be rather silent, appearing as if I’m not paying attention at all. After a while, one of her friends who did not know me, proceeded to get frustrated at me and began to berate me. She said “if I would have known you were going to drift off elsewhere, I never would have bothered speaking to you at all.” Because she did not know me any better, she totally misinterpreted my silence as a lack of enthusiasm; there was a complete breakdown. Once me, my wife, and some of her friends helped clear the air, she know knew how and what I was actually feeling. While women complain that it is their partners don’t listen, they are shocked that men feel the same way. One of the most common examples most people will use when talking about the differences in which men and women communicate is how to ask questions, specifically in asking for directions. Most men do not have the propensity to stop and ask for directions. Men see this type of action as almost a form of weakness because it implies that they need help. Women on the other hand do not have the same problem stopping and asking for directions. Men hate when their significant other constantly nags them to “just pull over and ask someone already”. A woman feels if she keeps asking, a man will eventually give in and do so. However, as a male, I can say we would rather drive in circles before finally asking for help, I call it as a result of my male pride. I can use an example of this fro...