INTERPERSONL RELATIONSHIP
...d not tell my friends or my family members. I am introverted person. I would keep everything about me to myself. Sometimes I will open myself up a little bit if I feel like it. As in the Johari Window, I am in the hidden self. Also, I do not want to risk my personal and get the rejection from other people. For instance, I would not tell others about my secrets. I keep them in my mind and solve them by myself. As the psychologists say it is not healthy to keep everything to yourself. I know I should open myself up to relief the stress. In addition, in my family, we are not supposed to tell how we feel. My parents, especially my father, would not tell about their childhood because they thought it is privacy. I remembered when I was in still in my country, my dad had always wanted our obedient. I can be opened up about something else beside my personal stuff. Overall, I need to improve my self-disclosure. Second, perception is another problem that I need to learn. According to Charles Peguy, he stated that “we must always tell what we see. Above all, and this is more difficult, we must always see what we see.” For example, my friend tells me her about her dilemma of finding a major. I listen to her conversation, but the conversation is getting too long and redundant, I am getting bored and do not eagerly participate in the conversation as before. Another factor that influences my perception is stereotype. A friend of mine, before I know her, I used to judge her by her expression of her face and how she looked at when I passed her on the hallway in school. She looked at me like I was nobody. Then, one day we became friend and got to know her more, my point of view about her immediately has changed. Moreover, even now I believe in self-fulfilling prophecy. I always predict something that I can not do it eventhough I haven’t tried it. I remembered when I took Sociology class last summer, I said to myself that I could not write an journal everyday because I have nothing to write. As a result, I dropped the class. It lows my self-esteem. Third, listening is the major problem that I need to improve. According to Italian Proverb, it quoted that “From listening comes wisdom, and from speaking repentance.” The more I listen, the more I can give back the right feedback. I can learn the mistakes by listening other people’s experience. For example, my friend went back to Vietnam. Her friends and her family gave her the lists what to buy over there because she didn’t...