Family and Identity
...e that her last name is Korean because Hwang does not pronounce it correctly. This event makes Hwang recognize that she does neither speak Korean nor pronounce well her last name in this language. As she recognize that her parents never thought her to speak their language, she understand that her parents didn’t want her to be raise as Korean. At the same time, she becomes aware that her parents would prefer that she get married with a Korean man. In the last paragraph of her essay, Hwang states “My parents didn’t want their daughter to be Korean, but they don’t want her fully American, either.” Carol Hwang also states that her interaction with her parents have caused her identity problems when she says “ My sense of identity was already disintegrating.” Similarly, Marcus Mabri tells a story of a young men who lives in a wealthy Californian College campus while taking classes, who experience identity problems. This black young men comes from a poor family that lives in New Jersey. Mabry writes : Most students who travel between the universes of poverty and affluence during class breaks experience similar conditions. The writer makes reference to the duality that a person lives and experience while living two different style of lives at college and home. Mabry describes in this short story how conflictive is to deal with a family that does little or nothing to get out from poverty, and with college classmates that live in an affluent world .Moreover, Mabry tells about the feeling of guiltiness that this young men has, because he is out of his house having a better style of life than his relatives, and he is also preparing him self for a better future. In this short story, Mabry also implies the emotional state that takes place in the life of this young men, causing him conflict of identity. This emotions, feelings of guilt, and confusion about his identity ( he lives in two worlds ) have to deal with self-evaluation and self-esteem, with self-definition, which are part of self identity. Mabry knows that there is a conflict of identity by living in two worlds. In addition, V. L. Vignoles, X. Chryssochoou and G.M. Brekwell, in their psychological evaluation of models of identity motivation, argue that self-esteem is not the whole thing. They argue that “ distinctiveness, continuity and efficacy should be given equal theoretical consideration to self-esteem as motives guiding identity processes.” Nevertheless, most of psychoanalysts and sociologist, strongly believe that the family play a significant role in the development of the individual personality an...