dowery in india
...e against daughters. The Indian commission on the status of women report stated that dowry had been found to be one of the biggest problems affection women in almost every Indian state. Since the cost of a dowry has risen, people should start to speak out and stop giving dowry. They should go to the police and report against the groom’s family for demanding dowry. But you can’t even trust the police sometime because they’ll go to the groom’s family and the groom’s family will bribe the police so he won’t take them to court or arrest them. Most families expect dowry from the bride’s family. And for this reason, it will be hard to find a guy whose family won’t damned dowry. So the women are left unmarried and they feel like they are worthless they are a burden on their family. And this sometimes leads women to commit suicide. Even after giving dowry and after the couple are married, some women and their family still suffer. The women’s in-laws and/or her husband might still force her to go back home and ask her father for more money and other things. Some women are forced to do all the work in the house like a slave and they also get beaten. Garage report that Mad Bushin, who works with a volunteer group of women named Vimochana-Liberation in Sanskrit -- that tries to resettle women who have been beaten in dowry cases, says “you can’t talk about marriage without talking of dowry. There’s nothing wrong with giving something to a daughter when she gets married, but when it becomes a condition of marriage that is wrong. And now it is used as an excuse to abuse women”(4). Over the last two decade many married women were murdered by their in-laws and/or husbands for not getting more money from her father. The most common means of murder is soaking the bride in kerosene and setting her on fire, with a report to the police of a suicide or an accident in the kitchen. These recent bride of violence against women. Dowry murders occur most often in cases of arranged marriages the most common from of marriage in India. It is difficult to know own widespread the problem is but at least 2,000 women are victims of dowry deaths per year in India. In a dowry murder case discussed by Kumari, the husband accused of burning his young wife said that “she had committed suicide because she could not forget her own past involving previous sexual activity”. Sharma suggests that North India dowry has increased as India has shifted to a market, cash economy over the last 50 years: “dowry used to be more or less conventionally determined and many items could be made in whole or part by members of the bride’s family themselves (e.g. rug, clothing, bedding)”. But now, especially among the urban middle classes, expectations of televisions. motor scooter, refrigerators, large sums of cash =, and other thing are much more common. I think that since the urban middle class can’t afford all these kinds of things they turn to dowry. But it is ridiculous to kill women or continue torturing them after their family already gave dowry once. It would be better if the in-laws tell the women to go to work so they can afford things they want instead of bothering them and their families for more money. Sending the women to work is a better idea than killing them. Bordewich says that dowry murder has another reason-”that it frees the women’s in-laws to get a new bride and an additional dowry”. Most parents continue giving dowry to their daughter’s in-law will give their daughter a hard time or might even kill her. One main reason for the dowry system in India is with a class system and with maintenance of the superiority of higher groups over lower. Everyone wants money and the more money you have, the more respect you get. Sharma’s work on dowry has also cleared up one confusion, namely “how it is that marriageable women appear to be in great supply”. Everyone is anxious to marry off a daughter and even accused dowry murders manage to secure new brides, even tough there are far more males than females in the marriageable age groups in the North. Hypergamy is the marriage of women upward into higher status group. It is traditionally common in the North and is becoming more common with modern dowry. Lessening of caste restrictions in modern marriages promotes more hypergamous competition. Dowry givers are competing upwards for scarce grooms at the top. Instead of looking for the high caste grooms, the bride’s family should look for a groom who is suitable for the girl. I’m not saying that they should look for someone in a low caste either because they also want money just like the high caste people. It is not hard to find a groom who wouldn’t want dowry. The groom can change after marriage, but putting that and the caste system aside, the bride’s family should look for someone that is hard-working and a good person by heart. But if people want to give dowry because of the high caste person their daughter is going to marry, then there isn’t anything the government can do. That’s the bride’s family who is responsible for their decision and anything that happens to their daughter. I can understand that if the poor people get dowry from the bride’s family, it is beneficial for them to survive and from becoming even more poor. But when dowry is used as an excuse to kill women in order to find another bride for an additional dowry, than I believe it is wrong. If the groom’s family gets dowry from the bride’s family, they should be grateful and satisfied. Th...