Bondage & Domination
...ir own needs. Each partner has different needs, as defined by their role as Dom or sub, but each is satisfied, though in different ways. Each couple will have their own set of agreements. Bondage and Domination are not to be confused with Sadomasochism. To make this more clear, I have included these basic definitions: Bondage - 2) A state of subjection to a force, power or influence. It comes from the Old English word bonda, which means husbandman (farmer) Dominant - 1) Exercising the most influence or control; governing. 2) Most prominent in position or prevalence; ascendant. Comes from Old French and Latin dominans, to dominate. Dominate - 1) To control, govern or rule by superior authority or power. Comes from Latin dominari, to rule - dominus, lord. Humiliate - To lower the pride or dignity of; mortify. Comes from Latin humiliare, humiliat, to humble - humilis, humble. Submissive - comes from Submit. Submit - 1) To yield or surrender (oneself) to the will or authority of another. 2) To subject to a condition or process. 3) To yield to the opinion or authority of another; give in. 4) To allow oneself to be subjected; acquiesce. Comes from Middle English submitten, Latin submittere, to set under: sub-under + mittere - to cause to go. Sadism - 1) The perversion of deriving sexual satisfaction from the infliction of pain on others. 2) Delight in cruelty. 3) Extreme cruelty. Comes from Comte Donatien de Sade (1740-1814) Masochism - 1) An abnormal condition in which sexual excitement and satisfaction depend largely on being subjected to abuse or physical pain, whether by oneself or another. Comes from Leopold von Sacher-Masoch, Austrian novelist (1836-1895) Sadomasochism - 1) The perversion of taking pleasure, especially sexual gratification from simultaneous sadism and masochism. If you ignore the terms "perversion" and "abnormal" in the above definitions, you can still see that nowhere in the definition of dominate or submit do you have pain as an integral part. However, in Sadomasochism, the pain is the pleasure. In B&D, pain is a tool ...