between parent and teenager
...nagers are rebellious because they are still not sure what they want to be, but are sure what they don’t want to be, which is usually their parents. Dr. Ginott explains that parents should understand this as a step in their child’s development. Teenagers might go through several different “identities” before one find’s their own personal identity. The natural changes from puberty can lead to anxiety, depression, or family conflict. Parents must allow their child to go through self-actualization and not expect them to be a carbon copy of themselves. Dr. Ginott explains the need for a teenager’s privacy is great. Providing privacy will gain respect whereas invading privacy will cause permanent resentment (39). Giving a teenager privacy during these periods will help them develop and find identity achievement without resentment of their parents. Dr. Ginott also explains in his book the importance of showing anger without insulting. He explains that anger should be shown and talked about in a healthy way. In a discussion with a group of un-named mothers, Mother A. said: “My father simply forbade me to be angry. I can still hear him say, “Who gave you the right to be mad at your mother? Who do you think you are?” (Ginott, 94). This gave the impression that showing one’s feelings was wrong. This is not healthy in resolving a conflict. I...